MYTH: Any Man Would Be Lucky To Have You

Have any of you single ladies heard this statement before, or had someone say this to you? “Any man would be lucky to have you.” Many times it’s meant as a genuine compliment, but have you ever thought about that statement? Well, I have and no, any man is not lucky to have you….

It can be so easy to get focused on finding that “perfect” person to complete us. No person can complete you. And no person is perfect. If you are not a whole, healthy person in your singleness, then you will not suddenly become a whole, healthy married partner. That’s not how life works.
We become so focused on finding the right person, but instead what if we focused on becoming the right person?

I have spent the last few years being single, focused on becoming who God has destined and created me to be — dealing with, and attempting to overcome the issues that led me to settling in my past relationship. It is honestly a never ending journey of growing and becoming who you are purposed to be. I am determined to take the mistakes, hurts, and pain of the past and share it so others can find hope and healing. Genesis 50:20, “You planned evil against me but God used those same plans for my good.” (MSG)

Become confident in who you are. The statement, “Any man would be lucky to have you,” sounds good in the moment and makes us feel better, but that is not where our confidence and security should come from. If your confidence and security is found in another human, you will soon be disappointed.

Any man is not lucky to have me.

The man who will be blessed to have me as a partner by his side is…
A man who pursues God.
A man who challenges me to grow spiritually.
A man who respects my standards and boundaries.
A man who will pray with me and for me.
A man who will encourage, inspire, and challenge me to be all that God has created me to be.
A man who will go above and beyond to make me feel loved and important.
A man who is generous, humble, and kind.
A man who is consistent.
A man who works hard .
A man whose actions match his words.
A man who will, by example, teach my sons how to treat and respect women, and show my daughter how she deserves to be treated.

I don’t say these things to be conceited, but at some point we have to be confident in knowing that we deserve God’s best. We are worthy of love and respect. And we don’t have to settle for any man that gives us attention.

I refuse to be with any man. And not any man can have me. Raise your standards, ladies, and know your worth! Do not settle for less than you deserve. Any man does NOT deserve you.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.” Proverbs 31:25-26 (NLT)

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” Proverbs 31:30 (NLT)